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Women's Anatomy of Sexual Arousal

Updated: Sep 19, 2019

I felt to share a topic that is dear to my heart and that is one of

“women’s sexual pleasure.”

Whether you’re a man or a woman, the information in this page can help you have great sex, so long as you have female parts or like to play with them.

Your sexuality connects to that cosmic energy: they are one and the same thing, only on the micro and macro levels. How you relate to that immense power has a pervasive impact on your life. You can repress your sexuality. You can go “repression light” and downplay it. Or, you can take the other road and . . . celebrate it! Your sexuality can take you on a sacred ecstatic path

that unites you profoundly to all life throughout time. At the end of the day, the choice is yours.

A women’s sexual arousal is first and foremost for her full sexual arousal network to kick in she needs to feel safe. Her arousal starts in the parasympathetic nervous system the nervous system that is operating when we are at rest. It is not until our bodies feel deep trust that the arousal can start to happen, and then we move in the sympathetic as arousal starts to kick in and excitement builds. Too many times we may try to kick start our arousal system when there is not a feeling of deep trust and safety, maybe we feel rushed that we are taking too long, that he is more aroused, all of these things can hinder our arousal, and ultimately our deep pleasure.

Before we get into the physical parts of your body that contribute to pleasure, let's talk about your biggest sexual organ — your brain. Inside your brain is a section called the hypothalamus. This control center regulates and distributes hormones that contribute to your sex drive and sexual desire like serotonin, dopamine, oxytocin, and vasopressin . Your brain also processes pleasure and pain, and communicates with your nervous system to decide what feels good and what doesn't.  Most women, especially, need mental stimulation and emotional connection  before they feel sexually aroused. Men, on the other hand, are typically more visually and physically stimulated. Either way, a little mental foreplay always helps to set the mood.

Once we really get to know our desires, and our anatomy, then we have a much better chance of having the types of sexual experiences we really crave, and then if we are having the kinds of sexual experiences that deeply fulfill us, and aren’t about meeting another needs then surely

then we are going to be more interested in actually engaging sexually.

Although it can be hard at first sometimes to connect into your desire, especially if most of your life you have focused on fulfilling other peoples, take your time and trust, sit with it and find to feel your authentic desires, speak them out even if they seem inappropriate, too much, ridiculous or simple whatever is real, and keep digging deeper.

So for all the women out there, do you know what gives you pleasure? do you know what you really desire? have you ever sat with that question with a partner? it can be a powerful practice to set up a scenario where your partner is just their to serve your desires what ever they are, be

they sexual or not, its a powerful practice, trust me, and see where it leads you, do it for at least an hour, I guarantee you will have fun!

Body image (what woman doesn’t grapple with this one?) has a huge impact on a woman’s sexual response. One study found that women, aged 35-55, generally considered themselves more attractive when they were 10 years younger (no matter their current age). A woman’s perception of her attractiveness directly correlates with her ability to feel sexual desire, excitement, and orgasm. Put simply: poor body image fosters low arousal.

Inhibitions often lessen with age. We may make peace with parts of our bodies we have hated for years. We may give ourselves more freedom to experiment in relationships — to date a younger man, for example, or to engage in sexual relationships with women — or to be more open about them. Sometimes our idea of what a “typical” relationship should be continue a lifelong enjoyment that has brought much happiness and satisfaction.


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