Tantric Yoni Massage
The vagina is called yoni in Sanskrit and loosely translates to "a sacred space, holy temple ." In Tantra philosophy, we approach the vagina from a place of the utmost love and respect. Yoni massage is a practice intended to truly honor a woman, to give her selfless pleasure, and to explore the sacred side of our sexuality.
It can be very healing for those who have suffered sexual trauma in their past, because the approach and technique is all about giving to the woman—making her feel loved, cherished, worshiped, and honored.
Yoni massage offers a way to learn how to orgasm. Or how to increase the existing orgasmic sensation. Step by step the receiver is guided deeper into the pleasure. By learning to let go, and by consistent knocking on
the doors to deep orgasms.
This is particularly important for men to learn!.
Before beginning the Yoni Massage it is important to create a space for the woman (the receiver) in which to relax, so she can enter a state of high arousal and experience great pleasure from her Yoni. Her partner (the giver) will experience the joy of giving pleasure and witnessing a special moment.
The goal can be as simple as to pleasure and massage the Yoni. In practice, that means the giver will
encounter, with the receiver’s feedback, numb areas, painful areas, or otherwise tense spots inside the
vagina. Working on those areas, massaging them, can have surprising effects. From this perspective, both receiver and giver can relax and do not have to worry about achieving any particular goal. When orgasm does occur it is usually more expanded, more intense and more satisfying.
We start with breathing, light touches to the face and arms once you are relaxed your body is later massaged with furs, feathers, and soft objects so that excitement flows all through your body. The top of your sensual experience is an oil full body massage with hot organic oil.
Have the receiver lie on stomach start with the soles of her feet, massaging the calves, thighs, concentrate on the hips and lower back then shoulders and neck stroke her hair, always ask about the amount of pressure once she is relaxed ask her to roll over onto her back with pillows under her head so she can look down at her genitals and up at her partner (giver). Place a pillow, covered with a towel, under her hips. Her legs are to be spread apart with the knees slightly bent and her genitals clearly exposed for the massage. This position allows full access to the Yoni and other parts of the body. Before contacting the body, begin with deep, relaxed breathing. Both giver and receiver should remember to breathe deeply, slowly and with relaxation during the entire process.
Gently massage the legs, abdomen, thighs, breasts, etc., to encourage the receiver to relax and for the giver to prepare for touching her Yoni. Pour a small quantity of a high-quality oil (coconut) on the mound of the Yoni. Pour just enough so that it drips down the outer lips and covers the outside of the Yoni. Ask if its ok to touch her Yoni gently massaging the mound and outer lips of the Yoni. Spend time here and do not rush.
Gently squeeze the outer lip between the thumb and index finger, and slide up and down the entire length of each lip. Do the same to the inner lips of the Yoni/vagina. The receiver should tell the giver if the pressure, speed, depth, etc. need to be increased or decreased. Divine drumming: tap the inner thighs and vulva with your flat hand, as if playing a drum. Ask for feedback – harder? softer? faster? slower? Limit your conversation and focus on the pleasurable sensations.
* Start with a reflexology massage just a few centimeters inside the entrance wall of her Yoni.
* Press your index and middle finger up against the 12 o’clock position, just below the pubic bone (stay on each point a little bit and let her breathe into this area).
* Feel to find out whether she is holding anything physically or emotionally stored in each clock space.
* Then move to the 1 o’clock position, press, hold and breathe in. Feel.
* Do this with the entire clock rotation until you return to 12 o’clock again.
* On the 6 o’clock position it’s easiest to use your thumb, pressing down towards her anus.
* Move your fingers around her vaginal walls (with your index and middle finger), in circles, circling deeper and deeper inside.
* You want to gently touch every part of her vaginal walls. Check for tension, numb areas and knots. Stay there if she doesn’t feel anything, until she does feel something.
Massage all knots out.
Breathe through it, all the time, especially important in case she feels pain.
* Go to her G-spot (the G-spot is right inside the upper front wall).
* Use your middle and ring finger.
* You can press on the G-spot zone gently. Can you feel a spongy area?
If you see that she is having pleasure, continue to press on it a
bit harder, yes, even harder.
* Then start stimulating the area with a come-hither motion till she gets the feeling that she has to pee.
* Start moving your whole arm up and down, creating a vacuum around her G-spot (with the movement coming from the shoulders); it’s a bouncing sensation, the vagina might even smack a little. Then you’ll know you’re doing it correctly.
yoni massage technique
* When she gets the peeing feeling she has to ‘bear-down’ and almost ‘push out a little’.
* Her body will manifest sexual energy through the squirting orgasm.
Don’t worry, it’s not pee. And if it is you have all those towels – remind her that she is safe to do it.
* After exploring the G-Spot, go deeper and continue to explore.
There is so much to discover!
The Crown Jewel
The clitoris is an amazingly complex structure, similar in function to the male's glands, but surprisingly - up to four times more sensitive. The glands portion of the clitoris holds 8,000 - 10,000 sensory nerve endings, more than any other structure in the human body.
The clitoris is located at the top of the labia above the vagina. It consists of a rounded area or head, called the glans, and a longer part called the shaft and is covered by a “hood” of skin called the clitoral hood. Depending on the sensitivity of your partner's clitoris and the amount of natural lubrication, you may need to apply additional lubrication before beginning the massage. You will almost never want to touch her clitoral glans directly without your finger(s) being lubricated.
Gently slide the loose tissue covering her clitoris around, primarily back and forth, getting a feel for the shape and firmness of her clitoris. Determine how much the tissue along her shaft slides around. You do not want to grasp the glans at first if possible, but if her clitoris is small, you will not be able to avoid it. As you slide your fingers back and forth along her shaft, the hood should also be sliding back and forth, stimulating her glans.
If you cannot grasp her clitoris, place the tip of your index finger on top of her clitoral body or hood. Gently move the tissue under your finger around in small circles, or back and forth, to stimulate her clitoris. You should feel the firm structures of her clitoris under your fingertip when she is aroused and erect
Place your thumb and forefinger around the clitoral hood, and, while lightly pinching the clitoris, gently roll it around between your fingers. Pull the hood up, exposing the clitoris and gently blow on it. Then, with the lightest touch, use a lubricated fingertip to stroke it in different directions to see which she likes best. Try side to side, upward strokes, downward, or circles. Some women love a light genital tapping. This brings blood to the surface and charges the nerve endings.
Slowly and with great care, insert the middle finger of your right hand into the Yoni (there is a reason for using the right hand as opposed to the left. It has to do with polarity in Tantra). Very gently explore and massage the inside of the Yoni with this finger. Take your time, be gentle, and feel up, down and sideways. Vary the depth, speed, and pressure. With your palm facing up, and the middle finger inside the Yoni, move the middle finger in a "come here" gesture. You will contact a spongy area of tissue just under the pubic bone. This is the G-spot "the sacred spot". Vary the pressure, speed, and pattern of movement. You can move side to side, back and forth, or in circles with your middle finger.
Most women should have no problem and will enjoy the increased stimulation from two fingers. Take your time and be very gentle. You may use the thumb of the right hand to stimulate the clitoris as well.
You can use your left hand to massage her breasts, abdomen, or clitoris. If you massage the clitoris it's usually best to use the thumb in an up-down motion, with the rest of the hand resting on, and massaging the mound. Continue massaging, using varying speed, pressure and motion, all the while continuing to breathe deeply and looking into each other's eyes.
She may have powerful emotions come up and may cry, scream, beat the bed. Just keep breathing and be gentle. If she has an orgasm, keep her breathing, and continue massaging if she wants. More orgasms may occur, each gaining in intensity. In Tantra this is called "riding the wave."
Yoni massage is a therapy which can sometimes push our boundaries because it can release oceans of tears, anger and other emotions connected with our pain – both physical and mental – but it can also release great laughter, joy and deep pleasure which can, in turn, produce a heightened state of awareness.
In ending the massage, slowly, gently, and with respect, remove your hands. Allow her to relax and enjoy the afterglow of the Yoni massage.
Then you can talk to each other, quietly abut the experience, Hold each-other, lightly stroke the hair and skin as you connect.
Benefits of a Yoni massage
Supports a woman in witnessing & accepting emotional pain be that from sexual trauma, abuse, difficult sexual relationships or trauma experienced in childbirth.
Low sex drive,
Pain in sexual intercourse,
The inability to feel safe in one’s own skin,
Fear of intimacy,
Fear of touch,
Lack of trust in relationships,
Lack of respect for one’s own sexuality, reducing promiscuity,
An ability to trust,
A willingness to be vulnerable,
An ability to surrender,
A connection of rich depth, unity & intimacy