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Tips and Tricks for the best oral sex

Updated: May 14

What is Oral Sex?

Oral sex involves stimulating your partner's genitals with your mouth. You can perform oral stimulation using your tongue, lips, and/or throat. Oral sex can be a form of foreplay before sexual intercourse or as the main event of a sexual experience eat pineapple, papaya, nutmeg, cinnamon to make you taste great.

Many people find oral sex to be a sensual and intimate part of lovemaking, but not everyone is readily open to giving it or receiving it until there is some discussion to address their fears and put them at ease. It can feel uncomfortable or even awkward to start the conversation but talking about intimate matters with your partner will help build trust and intimacy even if they are initially opposed to the idea. The first step is asking, but know that there are more respectful, open ways to do it than others.

Trusting your partner is essential. This part of your body can feel especially intimate, so you must feel safe with your partner(s) even in casual situations. “You can’t have good oral sex without trust,” Even if it’s just a hookup thing, I need to know you’re a person who will respect what I want and don’t want. It’s about communication and being open about [desires] so that you can be in the moment.”

Discuss STI status. Inquire about your partner’s STI (sexually transmitted infection) status and consider using a dental dam for extra protection. There is a risk of contracting STIs such as HPV through cunnilingus, but the risk is much lower than vaginal and anal sex.

Know that every vulva is different. Be mindful that all vulvas (the external female genitalia including the clitoris, labia, and vaginal opening) are different. This means the smell, look, or taste of your partner's vulva may not be what you expect, and that's completely normal.

Letting go of inhibitions and focusing on what feels good to you can bring you amazing pleasure. the best oral sex of her life was with a man who made her feel like she could be completely present and laid bare—in the best way. “To be in someone’s mouth, to let them please you, and to be completely selfish in that moment is simultaneously empowering and vulnerable,”

There are three subcategories of oral sex:

Cunnilingus {stimulation of the female Vulva} is an oral sex act performed on the vulva or vagina. During cunnilingus, the giving partner typically focuses on stimulating their partner’s clitoris, the most sensitive erogenous zone for vulva owners.

Fellatio {oral stimulation of a man's penis} more commonly called a blow job, is an oral sex act that involves stimulating your partner’s penis with your mouth. Despite its name, a blow job doesn't involve blowing on the penis; rather, you perform a blow job by licking and sucking the penis.

Analingus {orally pleasuring the anus}. More commonly called a rim job or rimming, analingus is the act of orally stimulating a partner’s anus. Licking, kissing, and sucking can stimulate the sensitive nerve endings in and around the anus and rectum. With thoughtful safer sex practices and clear communication, rimming can be a pleasurable sexual activity for persons of all genders and sexual orientations.

Many young adults and teenagers who want to preserve their "technical virginity" don't consider oral sex to be the real thing. Maybe it's because oral isn't penetration in a traditional sense, or perhaps it's because the act can't lead to conception. However, doctors say that oral sex is still sex, especially because it carries many of the same risks as intercourse if it's not done responsibly. "A lot of women focus on, 'Well, I won't get pregnant,”. "But I say there's another very serious issue with unprotected sex, whether it be vaginal or oral, and that is the transmission of sexually transmitted diseases. As doctors, we tell people that, in that sense, oral sex still counts."

If you don’t enjoy it, don’t do it

This obviously goes for most things in life, but it’s especially important when it comes to oral sex. You can tell when someone’s not “in” it. If you look like you’re not having fun, you won’t have fun, and neither will your partner.

Ask what your partner likes

Everyone wants something different. Licking, sucking, kissing, all of the above, none of the above—everyone gets excited over different things. While your last partner might have loved when you do XYZ, your new partner might find that uncomfortable. Instead of guessing what they like, just ask. You can make it sexy by asking them if they like when you this or that.

You need to engage in foreplay before going down on her. If you treat cunnilingus as foreplay itself, your partner might not feel ready, which can be awkward. Also, it’ll take a lot longer to get her to where she wants to be.

On average, women take 20 minutes to reach orgasm. Include some foreplay, and your jaw will thank you! Take your time kissing, hugging, and touching your partner, making sure she is aroused.

Understand oral isn’t the same as penetrative sex

This is especially helpful if you’re giving oral sex to someone with a vulva. Using your tongue, the same way you would penetrate with fingers, or a penis doesn’t feel the same; it’s actually not particularly pleasurable for a lot of women. Oral is a different sensation than penetration, which is one of the reasons why it’s so fun! Don’t spend the entire time trying to go down on them as a substitute for sex. Oral isn’t a substitute; it’s a complement.

Luckily, there are plenty of ways to improve your oral sex techniques and communicating with your partner can make a big difference. From incorporating toys, to trying different positions, to using your tongue in unique ways. If fellatio and/or cunnilingus become a regular part of your routine, either can seem ho hum after a while—just as any other sex act can get when it becomes your go-to pleasure move. Luckily there are many variations to cunnilingus and fellatio. If you're in a rut, try it on all fours, up against the wall, or in the 69 positions, for example. Just like with intercourse, experimenting with new positions may crank up your chances of orgasm.

I am not saying they’re totally fail-proof oral sex tips, but they are sexy and fun,

with the potential to produce mind-blowing orgasms!

What you eat might change the way you taste

You may have heard that eating foods like pineapple can change the taste of your vagina, that eating foods with higher sugar content, like fruit, could possibly make bodily fluids taste a little sweeter. But that effect wouldn't be noticeable right away—especially not in men, since "prostate fluid in ejaculate can be made weeks or months before

Use more than your mouth Just because it’s called “oral sex” doesn’t mean you can only use your mouth to do all the work. Your hands are an incredible tool or introduce sex toys to make oral sex a multi-sensory experience. You can touch their genitals or touch their stomach, their arms, their breasts, their inner thighs, etc. Adding that extra element of touch helps build anticipation and arousal.

Heighten The Senses You experience the best when all your senses are involved. Pay specific attention to scents—scented candles, essential oils, aphrodisiac perfume or even flavored lube should be involved in the process of heightening your olfactory senses. It triggers the limbic section of the brain, the area responsible for arousal.

Quick lesson on anatomy on female anatomy

Before I give you a small lesson on the wonders of the female anatomy, please make sure your partner is okay with you touching their sensitive areas, consensually is key. There are several erogenous zones you can play with. If you can master the art of cunnilingus while stimulating these zones, you’ll knock her socks right off her feet.

* The gluteal fold is the spot where the thigh meets the butt. It’s a suggestive zone often overlooked. Kissing, licking, pressing, or tickling this spot can drive him wild by surprise.

* The perineum is the spot between the anus and vagina. It’s full of perineal nerves, which send pleasure sensations from the perineum to the genitals. Gentle pressing, rubbing (with lube), and tickling are great ways to engage the perineum.

* The anus is a surprising erogenous zone The sphincter and the back wall of the vagina are connected to the same pleasure nerve. Gently rubbing or tickling the outside of the anus can bring pleasurable sensations. If she’s up for it, penetrating can bring a mind-blowing orgasm she’s never experienced.

* The sacrum is the triangular small of the back. It’s another overlooked erogenous zone. The sacral nerves are connected to the genitals and carry pleasure sensations from the sacrum to the vagina. You may have to press a little harder than you would other body parts to stimulate these nerves.

The Art of Cunnilingus

Follow her Movements Becoming a cunnilingus master isn’t about developing your “secret” method. It’s about learning hers. Every woman is different, and if you pay attention to her body, you’ll soon learn the best way to take her to the moon and back.

So, when you’re going down on her, please pay attention to her movements.

What is she doing with her hips, legs, arms, and back? What does this tell you about what she wants? For example, if she pushes her hips up (or pushes your head down), she may want you to apply a bit more pressure or go harder.

If she retracts her hips, you might be stimulating the clit too much, or she might be directing your tongue downward.

If she arches her back, she loves it. This doesn’t mean to go harder or faster; it means to keep doing exactly what you're doing.

This is also true if she puts her arms up near her face or head.

If you pay attention to how your partner moves during cunnilingus, you’ll soon learn to decipher these sensual signals and give her exactly what she wants.

Tips for Cunnilingus

1}Don’t go straight for the clit! Instead, opt for widespread, gentle pressure at first, the flat of your tongue first, and move your head instead of your tongue. This creates a larger surface space, which feels better initially to most people. Tease her around her vagina and her inner thighs with light licks and gentle tickles. Then, softly graze her clitoris with the tip of your tongue and pull back, if you skip this step, you risk overstimulating her to the point where she won’t be able to orgasm — and could possibly even find the experience painful.

2} Tell her to pull your hair when it feels good Many folks don’t enjoy vocalizing their desires or feel uncomfortable saying when something feels good in the bedroom. If you’re not used to being sexual with language or if it seems out of character for you, pillow talk can feel like a strange departure. But communication is at the heart of working out what your partner wants.

3} Make a point of telling her how great she tastes Many women feel self-doubt and insecurity when it comes to their vagina’s smell and scent. But let’s be real: If you didn’t enjoy both, you wouldn’t be down there. Making your partner feel at ease about both sensations can help her relax into the sexual experience.

4} Don't be Afraid of Toys Using toys during cunnilingus is a bonus for her Tongues get tired, as do backs and necks, and sometimes you really want your partner to get off but you're lagging for some reason. Bringing a sex toy or two into the bedroom can be fun and also extremely helpful in making her get off. Many men are intimidated or bothered by the idea of using a toy on their partner, as if they're not good enough or something, but the reality is that sex toys are better when shared.

5} Use your hands (and not in the way you think) Apply gentle pressure to your partner’s pubic bone. This can feel freaking amazing. You can also incorporate a finger or two and stimulate her G-spot or “clitoral cluster,” which tends to be located at the top of the vagina near the back wall. But have patience before inserting your fingers into the vagina itself. It’s best to stimulate the clit and vulva until she’s really, really ready. Using your fingers isn’t only a mechanism for stimulating your partner and giving pleasure, it’s also a solid way to know if and when she’s going to orgasm, when she’s beginning her climb, the walls of her vagina will become engorged, and you’ll feel her vagina begin to contract and tighten.”

6} The V-spot is a gathering of nerve endings past the labia minora at the entrance of the vaginal canal. Stimulate this spot by licking the vagina from top to bottom and penetrating slightly with your tongue.

7} Put a blindfold on. Receiving oral sex with a blindfold on can make the whole experience more intense. As your senses are heightened, your erogenous zones become even more sensitive. If you’re the one giving oral sex to your partner and they’re blindfolded, tickle their vulva, labia.

8} The crescendo the buildup should be like a crescendo. You need to start increasing pressure and increasing speed. Some women like a side-to-side tongue motion in the clitoral hood, while other women like an up-and-down rhythm, Some will be more into the clitoral hood and others will be more into the labia. Judge your movement based on her response.

9} Incorporate Penetration Orgasm, penetrative sex is difficult for many women When you've got a rhythm down on her clitoris with your mouth, slipping a few fingers or a toy inside of her is a great way to cause explosive, mind-blowing orgasms. Oral sex plus penetration and a vibrator will likely be too much, so opt instead for a dildo if you're bringing a toy into the bed. Slow and steady strokes in and out along with steady pressure from your mouth will work wonders for making her come. If you're using your fingers, insert your middle and index fingers, palm-up, and slowly make a "come here" motion to stimulate her G-spot. Again, apply even, steady pressure, and see if she likes it. G-spot orgasms are incredibly intense, and you'll both be pleasantly surprised at the result.

10} Clothes or no clothes? Teasing your partner through their underwear and licking along the seams is hot. And if your partner’s clit is really sensitive, this may even be their preference. Likely though, you’ll both eventually want their underwear out of the way. And for that? You might ask “can I take these off?” or “Are you ready for me to taste you?” Once you have consent, go ahead and yank them down.

11} What do you do with your tongue? Cunnilingus isn’t a one-size-fits-all game. Experiment with different rhythms, pressures, positions, and motions to find what feels good for your current partner. Start with broad, gentle pressure, and then proceed from there Some techniques to try: Oh, and start slow.

  • up and down

  • clockwise circles

  • counterclockwise circles

  • side to side

  • pulsating in one spot

  • wrapping your mouth around the clit and lightly sucking

12} How do you know if you should keep going? If your partner is moaning or holding your head in place, chances are they don’t want you to stop. So long as you’re enjoying yourself, keep doing exactly what you’re doing. Don’t let their excitement cause you to go faster or harder, because that may actually ruin the feel-good rhythm you’ve established And BTW: If you want to stop, stop! If you’re performing cunnilingus because you think that’s what you “should” be doing, or you’re not into it, your partner will be able to sense it. Some ways to transition out of oral sex include:

“I love tasting you, but my mouth is cramping. Would it be OK if I used a toy on you instead?”

13} Quick movements are great and all, but sometimes you got to go really slow lick from the top to the bottom of the clit as slowly as possible, then gently breathe some warm air along the wet path you just created. “This is a powerful (advanced) technique that can heighten sensation for both parties,”

14} Keep going when they're done. Technically there’s no limit for how many times someone with a vagina can orgasm in one session, so why not keep going after they climax to see if you can give them a second one? Same goes for the other way too: If your partner has a penis, don't pull away as soon as they orgasm. Lightly stimulate the shaft with your hand or mouth to give them all-over shivers.

15} Touch yourself. Another great way to give oral sex is to make yourself feel good while you're at it. This doesn't mean you have to 69 but consider giving yourself some pleasure while you're giving it. "Fantasize. Touch yourself. Wear a vibrating toy," "Do whatever it takes to get yourself turned on and enthusiasm will flow naturally."

16} Experiment with suction on the clitoris. Cunnilingus is often associated with licking, which is well and good, but suction on the clitoris can also feel extremely good. Have your partner try lightly sucking on the external part of your clitoris after tons of licking around the labia to get you warmed up (direct clitoral sensation like this can be too much right off the bat) or try sucking on your partner’s clit.

17} Keep your undies on during oral. Have your partner keep your undies on during all the foreplay of oral, exhaling their warm breath over the fabric of your panties, lightly tugging on the elastic with their teeth, etc. When you can’t take it anymore and they’re about to actually make mouth-to-vulva contact, have them push your underwear to the side as they go to town. The primal got to-have-you-now effect of keeping your undies on will make things even hotter.

18} Use your breath. that using your hot breath to stimulate nerve endings is an amazing way to ramp up foreplay before diving in. This works just as well with fellatio as it does with cunnilingus. Next time you’re going down on your partner, just take a step back to breathe on their sensitive parts before making contact. The suspense will turn them on in ways you didn’t know were possible.

19} Spread the labia during cunnilingus. This way, your partner has the space to approach the clitoris from all angles and sides. “Typically, beginners are really bashful about this, but spread the labia wide, get in the folds, and sensation will improve.

20} Incorporate nipple play. Being stimulated in multiple areas can help you reach climax more quickly. So, while their tongue is at work, have them play with your nipples. In the beginning, they should softly stroke your nips, but as you get closer, they can squeeze if you’re into that. And if that extra pressure feels good, you could take it one step further with nipple clamps. Clip them on as you’re starting to get aroused to see just how pleasurable a little bit of pain can be.

21} Cooling down can be very hot. Your temperature rises slightly when you’re aroused, so anything cool will be a pleasurable jolt to your senses. Point a fan in your direction so that while your partner’s between your legs, you’re feeling both the warmth from their mouth and a cool breeze. The combo is unexpected, and anything surprising can send you over the edge, or You can also try having them put an ice cube in their mouth before going down on you.

22} Go ahead, sit on their face. If you’re having trouble orgasming in a standard partner-in-between-your-legs position, switch it up and mount their face, being careful not to apply too much pressure. It allows your partner to access a totally new angle that might be just what you need to get there.

23} Play with the Lips One part of cunnilingus that sometimes gets overlooked is playing with your partner’s labia minora, colloquially known as “pussy lips.” “Remember that you can stimulate the internal erectile tissue of the clitoris via the lips,” O’Reilly notes. “Rub, grind and press against the lips on the outside and you’ll likely stimulate the internal clitoral complex.” This might not be as pleasurable as licking or sucking on the clitoris, but that doesn’t mean it’s not a fun part of the equation, and it’s a good option if you want to throw in some variation here and there.

24} Use Edging is a sex term for a technique where you bring your partner close to orgasm, and then back off a little bit so that they don’t climax yet. Doing this repeatedly will make the orgasm they do have at the end an incredibly powerful one.

25} Play with the backdoor the area around the anus is filled with plenty of tiny nerve endings that feel wonderful when stimulated with the hands or tongue Just make sure you discuss this with your partner first so there are no surprises. Showering together as foreplay might help you both feel clean and comfortable.

26} Tease them with kisses to build anticipation, plant little kisses on your partner’s inner thighs and pubic mound, simply hover over them and allow gentle kisses to emanate from your lips as you awaken their nerve endings and draw awareness and circulation to the area,” she says. “You can also use breath kisses over the entire body to build arousal and encourage full body orgasms.”

27} Caressing the G-Spot. slip you middle and index finger into the vaginal opening, palm up. Bend your fingers up in a “come hither motion.” Right behind the pubic bone you’ll feel a walnut-textured patch. To stimulate the G-Spot, rub in circular motions or simply apply pressure. It adds a sense of fullness that a lot of women love and there are a ton of nerve endings to be found. BUT not every woman enjoys G-Spot stimulation so pay attention to her vocal cues and ASK if she likes what you’re doing.

28} How about some humming? humming while going down on your partner can create a rather pleasurable, buzzy sensation. “Humming essentially produces vibrations that will resonate in your partner’s genitals, You’re turning yourself into a human vibrator. It may take a little practice, but it can be a real turn-on.

29} Remember that orgasm is not the only goal. In general, society tends to be a little orgasm obsessed. Oral sex is a great way to pleasure your partner without worrying about getting them off, so focus on the journey, and not the destination. Use it as a way to learn about your partner’s pleasure and your own,

30} Get permission before biting. Seriously. We’re talking about a very sensitive part of the body. For some people, even a tongue can be overly stimulating. That means that you should not be biting or nipping a clitoris unless your partner has expressly requested that you do so. The clitoris is so sensitive that the lightest of touches goes a long way. no biting, no furious motions, no hard rubbing.” If your partner happens to be into clit biting, well, you might just get the green light to introduce your TEETH! But in short: Without a verbalized invitation, keep your teeth to yourself when it comes to oral.

31} Pay special attention to the commissure, which is the area right above the clitoris and clitoral hood. It’s a smooth area of skin that tends to get ignored, due to its proximity to the obviously more infamous clitoris. pressure on the commissure can stimulate some of the internal fibers of the clitoris. Make a seal between your gum and her front commissure. You want to be a bit high above the glans, at a 45-degree angle to her vaginal entrance. Continue to apply persistent licks. If you’re having a hard time visualizing this, think about what your lips look like when you’re taking a bite out of an apple (minus the teeth of course!).

32} Use a lubricant designed for oral sex. There are plenty of flavored lubricants on the market, and if she doesn't lubricate easily or enough, trying one designed for performing oral sex can make all the difference! It can make your fingers slip easily over her body while you warm her up but will taste wonderful when you put your mouth there, too.

33} Put one hand on her pubic bone. on the mons Venus, above her clit but below her belly. This serves two purposes: You can try applying gentle pressure to the pubic bone as she gets turned on, to see if it makes things more intense for her. But even more importantly, you can use that hand to very gently pull back, possibly exposing more of her clit by lifting the hood over the clit. Note: this is best done when she's already very, very turned on and her clit is engorged. Otherwise, her clitoris may be too sensitive to be so exposed.

34} Put your hands on her buttocks so you can move her hips. involves being able to change the angle of her pelvis while you're using your mouth. This is all about experimentation, but it can make her clitoris or g-spot more accessible and can help you maintain an easier angle on your neck.

35} Try swirling your tongue around her clitoris in small circles, clockwise and then counterclockwise. Try moving up and down on both sides or licking in long, lingering strokes from top-to-bottom, and then in reverse. You’ll find the right spot, guaranteed.

36} Try some Ben-Wa balls or vaginal beads. Not everyone is into sex toys like Ben-Wa balls, but for lots of people, the mere act of trying something new is hot. For people who love internal sex toys, beads and balls add a feeling of fullness and can put extra pressure on the g-spot, resulting in deeper, longer orgasms.

37} Try a little bondage, if you're both into that. A silk scarf around her wrists or a soft rope that keeps her hands tied to the bed can be hot, hot, hot if you are into bondage kink — and many people are. Of course, any form of bondage requires open and healthy communication about boundaries and even safe words. For someone who loves to be bound, the feeling of releasing control to a dominant partner during oral sex is as hot as it gets.

38} learn these breathing and jaw techniques. The key is to breathe in through your mouth and out through your nose. If you can learn circular breathing (something musicians who play instruments that require breath know), you can go down on a girl for hours without having to come up for air. It's actually reverse circular breathing. To make sure your tongue doesn't cramp up, keep your jaw comfortably open and loose. I've found that upward strokes under the clitoral hood where the clitoris is are one of the best motions.

39} COMPLIMENT HER There are mountains of other things you can say to make her feel like a goddess… You taste amazing God, you look beautiful I love the way you moan I love it when you Because let’s face it, many people are insecure. Women especially have a lot to worry about. Despite great hygiene, there can still be natural odors, uncontrollable discharge, periods, spotting, infections, and hair (which, for some reason, freaks out some people). The line, “Don’t worry, baby. doesn’t bother me at all” can go miles towards making her feel at ease. Arousing her mind is just as important as her body.

40} PRACTICE & TECHNIQUE – There are several real techniques that people have suggested:

Licking ice-cream Writing the alphabet with your tongue Gentle/hard sucking

Using different parts of your tongue Stimulating different parts of the labia

Penetration with your tongue Humming. moaning to make vibrations

However, … There’s no holy grail of instructions. You’ll have to find the mix that makes her pop.

41} CAREFUL WITH AFTER-KISSING Just like men, not everyone likes having their nether regions kissed after they’ve had an orgasm from oral sex.

Things can often be too sensitive, and any additional stimuli will make them jump or twitch (not in a good way) and ruin their post-orgasmic bliss.

42} use CBD topically for calming vibes Topically on your vulva, it can help you relax your pelvic-floor muscles and also your anxious mind. For a quality water-based lube, and for a water-based arousal serum that will make you feel like you're walking on air.

43} Lick or caress the inner thighs. The skin on the inner and upper thighs, including right below the booty, can be super sensitive to touch. Try licking this area as a way to tease them, if they’ve expressed an interest in biting, this is a great place to (lightly) use your teeth.

44} Chat after: Later on, maybe if you’re cuddling, ask for feedback. What did they like, what did they want more of?

What do vulvas taste like?

Even the same vagina can taste different day to day, It’s based on things like diet, hydration levels, medications, where the person is in their cycle, and more.”

Some flavors you might taste while going down on a vulva:

Salty umami coppery tangy sweaty syrupy bland

And how about the smell… what do they smell like?

Vulvas may look vaguely like flowers, but they smell like vulvas. Some smell salty or coppery, while others have a musky or leather-like odor.

Unless you’d describe that smell as fishy or foul — or it’s accompanied by unusual discharge or itching — everything is probably fine.

Fellatio {oral stimulation of a man's penis}

What should you do if they’re uncircumcised? There’s not much difference in technique as far as circumcised vs. uncircumcised. If you start off with a hand job, let the foreskin move up and down with your hand. When you’re ready to get Licky with it, gently pull the foreskin downward to expose the head.

Do you have to deep throat? Nope, not unless you want to. Not going deep isn’t going to make or break an oral sex. You can totally fake it by placing the tip of your tongue on the roof of your mouth and sucking as much as you’d like without an unexpected gag.

Should you spit, swallow, or keep ejaculate out of the mouth entirely? That’s something to discuss with your partner beforehand, but you don’t ever have to do anything you don’t want to do. If it’s a visual turn on for your partner, having them finish on your closed lips or chin — or wherever you’re comfortable with — should do the trick.

Not all dudes are into blow jobs, there are some guys out there who are like, “I don’t really like getting head,” and that’s real too! Just like how some women find that getting head puts too much pressure on them to orgasm to the point where they can’t enjoy it, that stage fright is real for dudes too! Don’t feel offended or take it personally if your partner just isn’t into it.

Not all dudes can orgasm from blow jobs Lots of guys find that blow jobs just don’t do it for them. it’s sometimes just not enough for some guys to go over the peak Of course, If you’re going at it for ages and nothing’s happening, and your dude is like, “Yeah, I might not finish from this since I rarely can,” do not take it personally! It’s admirable to want to be a sex magician who can do the undoable, but if your jaw hurts, it’s not life or death if you stop.

Quick lesson on anatomy

Before I give you a small lesson on the wonders of the male anatomy, please make sure your partner is okay with you touching their sensitive areas, consensually is key. There are several erogenous zones you can play with. If you can master the art of blowing him while stimulating these zones, you’ll knock his socks right off his feet.

* The gluteal fold is the spot where the thigh meets the butt. It’s a suggestive zone often overlooked. Kissing, licking, pressing, or tickling this spot can drive him wild by surprise.

* The scrotum is the sac that holds the balls. It has several nerve endings that make it sensitive to touch. Sucking, licking, tugging, and massaging can bring pleasure to the scrotal sack. The scrotal raphe, the line running down the middle, can be especially pleasurable.

* The perineum is the spot between the anus and scrotal sack. It’s full of perineal nerves, which send pleasure sensations from the perineum to the genitals. Gentle pressing, rubbing (with lube), and tickling are great ways to engage the perineum.

* The anus is a surprising erogenous zone (for many men). The sphincter and penis are connected to the same pleasure nerve (the pudendal nerve). Gently rubbing or tickling the outside of the anus can bring pleasurable sensations. If he’s up for it, penetrating to the prostate can bring a mind-blowing orgasm he’s never experienced.

* The sacrum is the triangular small of the back. It’s another overlooked erogenous zone. The sacral nerves are connected to the genitals and carry pleasure sensations from the sacrum to the penis. You may have to press a little harder than you would other body parts to stimulate these nerves.

Tips and tricks for Fellatio

1} Don’t rush. Take your time Most everywhere men have insecurities about their penises — especially since we live in a world that fetishes and glorifies big ones, bigger than most men have. Also, most guys over a certain age struggle to stay very hard, and most men take a while getting there. It’s difficult to get out of your head and stop worrying about your dick to the point that you can actually relax and enjoy yourself. The longer you draw out the preamble, the less pressure men feel to perform in the moment. Men can only get hard if they don’t feel like someone is tapping their foot, waiting for it to happen.

Go slow, and let the moment evolve naturally without an end goal in sight.

2} Again, ask what they like. Everyone's different when it comes to sexual preferences, what works for one person will not for the other, so getting down to the core is key. You can ask in a sexy way so that it feels like part of the whole event, instead of just asking for directions. Try something like, "I want to suck your dick. How do you want me to do it?" Watch their eyes light up and their penis jump to attention as they give you a play-by-play of exactly what they like.

3} Foreplay is really, really awesome. Enjoy it — and stop thinking of it as “foreplay.”

Start by touching him. I love rubbing shoulders, rubbing legs, easing his body into mine, and helping him relax — all well before my hands move to his crotch area. Again — don’t rush.

4} Start by using the tip of your tongue up and down the base of their shaft, pausing to circle it around their head.

5} Show the underside of the shaft some love and then lightly flick the frenulum — the little wrinkle of skin where the shaft joins the head — with the tip of your tongue.

6} Lap up the entire length and repeat. Bonus points if you let them hear how much you enjoy doing it.

7} Hold the base of their shaft and take the rest in your mouth, then slowly slide up and down while sucking lightly.

8} Massage the prostate located just in front of the rectum, it’s a gland about the size and shape of a walnut—is often an under-explored source of pleasure. "Discover and stimulate his prostate, a highly orgasmic area, while you lick, kiss, and tease the shaft. Once you find it, massage it gently, then gradually up the intensity of your strokes and pressure

9} Pillows are your friend. Your comfort is key! Don't be afraid to take breaks. Do you need a neck pillow? Do you need a different position that's going to help you do the job better? “Don't be afraid to say what your needs are in this situation.” Whether you buy a pillow specifically for sex (yes, sex pillows are a thing) or you grab one off of the bed, pillows are one of the most underrated additions to oral. Not only can you put them under your knees if you're giving a kneeling blow job, but you can use them to prop up your partner's hips, which takes some of the neck strain off of you and provides new sensations for them and new positions for you to try.

10} Using lube is an A+ move. Why would you need lube when you have a mouthful of spit? Because spit dries up quick and lube makes everything better. Not only will it keep things slippery, but if you give your mouth a break and use your hand, it'll speed up the process and prevent you from getting lockjaw. opt for a flavored lube and enjoy the fact that you can suck a dick that tastes like strawberries.

11} Don’t just stroke your partner's penis, stroke their ego. Trust, the mental and emotional build-up to an orgasm is almost as hot as the actual thing. Your endgame is for your partner to feel like their pleasure is the most important thing in the world, it’s important that you're savoring the moment and not rushing

12} Appealing to the five senses (touch, sight, sound, smell, and taste) is a great way to turn on your partner and set the mood. burning a nice aromatherapy candle or wearing that perfume your partner loves. Get creative to put their senses in overdrive. A blow job is “not only about the experience itself, but also about the visual aspects, that's sexy for the receiver, what kinds of sounds are you making? Add some mm’s to show how much you’re enjoying the experience.

13} Don’t limit the blow job to the penis only. There are tonnes of pleasure spots on the body you can stimulate. One I highly sensitive area is the perineum—the area between your partner’s scrotum and anus. “It is highly home to a lot of nerve endings. Giving this area a little attention can intensify pleasure,” your tongue or index and middle fingers to apply pressure there. Licking and sucking gently of the scrotum also will up the sensations.

14} Mix up your hand strokes the mouth may be the star of the blow job show, but the hands play important supporting roles. Like you hold an ice cream cone while you lick, use your hand(s) to hold on to the shaft of the penis and the testicles while using your mouth.

15} Give the testies some TLC If you’re trying out ball play, start by gently cupping them in one hand and asking your partner if it feels OK. If they want more, use your fingers to massage the balls and move the sack around in your hands. Using edible massage oil or lube will help you avoid accidentally pinching the skin.

16} Apply pressure to the perineum. The perineum is the area of skin between the testical sack and the anus, and many people love having it touched. Try tickling or pressing this area with your fingers while you’re giving them a blow job.

17} Lick or caress the inner thighs. The skin on the inner and upper thighs, including right below the booty, can be super sensitive to touch. Try licking this area as a way to tease them, if they’ve expressed an interest in biting, this is a great place to (lightly) use your teeth.

18} Try Edging, with edging, you stop yourself from finishing when you’re right at the brink of orgasm. After giving yourself a breather, you repeat the process multiple times. The idea behind edging is that by building up the arousal in this way, the eventual orgasm will be stronger and more satisfying.

This technique can be super exciting during oral. But make sure to ask/tell your partner first. It can be jarring to stop so close to orgasm if they’re not expecting it.

19} Making noise during oral sex isn’t just about the sound effect—noises like humming, moans, and groans “create a stimulating vibration, it conveys enthusiasm, which will make the experience more fun for both of you.

20} Have your partner touch you, Oral sex shouldn’t be all about your partner. Sex writer Emily Morse suggests encouraging your partner to touch your breasts, nipples, and clitoris while you’re pleasuring them. Turning you on will turn them on, too

21} Inflict (A Little Bit of) Pain. Now's the time to get a bit naughty. Pain tolerance increases with arousal, so you could try digging your fingernails into him, or tightening the grip of your mouth. Experiment with some accessories, like a satin blindfold.

22} Tease His Foreskin if he is uncircumcised the foreskin is a great place to tease with oral sex, as he gets more erect, use your tongue to gently push the foreskin back with your tongue and lips.

23} Play with Temperatures try sucking on an ice cube right before you put him in your mouth will give him a tingly thrill. Even taking a sip of cold water can create the same positive sensation. Keeping a cup of warm tea near the bed also provides another way to play with temperature.

24} Put Your Breasts to Work If you're bent over him or looking up at him, that means your cleavage is also on display. You already know he loves them, so during oral try taking his penis in one hand and tracing it over and between your breasts. It's a different sensation that may be fun to try, it may be fun to incorporate them.

25} Play with Food in the bedroom, can take the fun-factor of giving a blow job up a notch by bringing in some whipped cream and warm chocolate syrup into the mix. He'll love the sensation, and you'll love the sweet treat.

26} Eye contact is a must. It might not make it feel way better, but it’s still damn hot for both him and you. It’s obviously a great view for him, as well as for you because you get to see how pleased he looks.

27} Use a vibrator. There's a lot a partner can do with a standard vibrator to enhance pleasure. Vibration applied to the penis really gets those pleasurable nerve endings tingling, try Placing the vibrator against the shaft and wrap your hands around the toy, and then just lick, suck, and tease the head of his penis with your tongue. A vibrator also feels good under the testicles and pressed against the perineum, too!

28} Keep stimulation through the orgasm. All too often, blowjob givers stop right as their partner starts to ejaculate. Don’t do that! “Like when he masturbates, robust manual stimulation through orgasm will feel just fine, so make sure to continue stimulation through the entire orgasm, there’s a small window for when you need to stop applying pressure. After an orgasm, a penis can feel hyper-sensitive, so touching it all will result in too much stimulation. Typically, your partner will let you know when to stop, so just wait for their cue, just wait until after they're finished ejaculating, and then stop.

29} Start kissing, nibbling and licking the spot where his thighs meet his testicles while you S-L-O-W-L-Y and lightly scratch his inner thighs. This is a huge tease for him, and it also gets him to focus on his entire body instead of just his penis, making it possible to have more of a full body orgasm when the time comes.

30} Make a ring with your thumb and index finger and place them around his shaft about ¾ of the way down towards the base. Make your "ring" smaller and tighter around him and use it to pull his skin all the way down. This makes the skin thinner and exposes more nerve endings. Now, he’ll feel MUCH more pleasure with every lick, stroke and suck.

31} You can definitely do blow jobs in the shower Most shower sex is difficult to impossible, the literal black diamond of sex locations. But oral sex is both doable and enjoyable in the shower. The water won’t work as lube but have your partner stand out of the jet stream (so you can be in it) and go to town, after you’ve watched them wash their body.

32} Take the Lead, Men find it insanely attractive when a girl initiates oral sex. The element of surprise really gets them going. So, this time around, don’t wait for him to ask if it is okay with you. Just do it on your own and see the magic unfold!

33} Make Eye Contact, while you’re heartily sucking on his penis, don’t forget to look up every once in a while. While the guy will mostly close his eyes as he relishes the euphoria rushing through his body, he will frequently open them to watch you in action. Lock eyes with him during one of these moments. With just “eye power” alone, show him that you’re in full control and enjoying yourself thoroughly too.

34} Use flavoured lube or condoms for better taste, speaking of lube, you know those strawberry-flavoured lubes, these are great for use if you are repulsed by the taste and smell of his penis. Just be sure to keep topping up – and be generous while you’re at it – since you’ll basically be licking/sucking the lube off his penis. Alternatively, you can pick up a couple of flavoured condoms if you don’t relish the idea of getting into a sticky and sweet mess. Just pop one of those bad boys on to transform his penis into a lolly. And as a plus, wrapping his willy means that you’re sucking with added protection from STDs!

35} Notice when there’s precum: How much someone will precum varies person to person, but if you’re noticing it, it’s likely they’re enjoying it – so take note of what you did to make that happen.

36} It’s okay if your gag reflex limits how far you can go: We all have one, some more than others. You can only go as deep as you can go, so don’t force yourself. You can slowly edge towards taking more of the shaft in, but don’t pressure yourself.

37} Chat after: Later on, maybe if you’re cuddling, ask for feedback. What did they like, what did they want more of?

Analingus {orally pleasuring the anus}. More commonly called a rim job or rimming,

Everyone has a butt. This means everyone, regardless of gender, can receive a world-class rim job. We hold so much shame about our bodies and our butts that getting to that special place where you trust someone with your hole is awesome and intense — and a great bit of foreplay for other forms of anal sex.

Anal sex play of all kinds has many benefits to include the pleasure of ample nerve endings, and is comprised of both muscles you can control and ones that are part of your autonomous nervous system the orgasmic potential, and the erotic taboo nature of the activity, The nerve endings of the anus are connected to the pelvic floor muscles and border the genitals. They can deliver a lot of pleasure for the receiver, especially around the opening of the anus where rimming occurs. Some individuals can orgasm, particularly men if they stimulate the prostate, which is deeper in the rectum.”

The rim job is just on the cusp of kinkiness. It really isn’t that kinky to get down and lick all around somebody’s ass, but at the same time, most couples just never go there. A lot of people are not fully aware of just how many nerve endings are in the butthole. The rim job is the gateway to greater pleasure many men and woman. If you’re thinking of giving or receiving a rim job for the first time, here are a few tips to keep in mind.

There’s some preparation involved that’ll just make the whole situation a lot better for you and your partner. First thing’s first: Get consent. As with any sort of anal play, it's important to have a conversation with your partner before a rim job this is crucial for consent. Shock or discomfort also makes the anal muscles tense up, which means less pleasure for all parties involved.”

1} It’s a good idea for the recipient to clean their butt beforehand. (Yes, this means douching.)

Washing the outside of your butt is imperative. Even if you and your partner are fine with your butt being more natural (not douched), washing the outside makes the whole experience better. There may be small traces of toilet paper on your butt that may make the experience less enjoyable, so at the very least, hop in the shower beforehand and do a once-over with soap

2} If you choose to douche, take your time. Most people douche. It is simply more hygienic to douche before mouth-to-ass sex Douching is recommended for a long, nice rimming session — which is a great precursor to other penetrative sex. And if you want a nice long session, you might need a nice long cleaning session before it.

Douche by holding water in your butt for a few seconds — anywhere from six seconds to 15 seconds is the standard recommended time, although some people go longer — before releasing it into the toilet or down the shower drain. You can do this with a squeezable bulb, a drugstore enema (just be sure to empty the liquid out and replace it with water first), or a shower hose attachment (most recommended).

3} Rimming lube. It’s water-based, since no one wants to slurp up a gob of silicone lube, which does not dry out or break down in water or spit. Water-based lubes are usually made with synthetic glycerin or are glycerin-free. Synthetic glycerin has a sweeter taste but has been associated with yeast infections in women and may not be totally nontoxic for human consumption, so I recommend going with a glycerin-free, organic, water-based lube.

4} Your breath is just as important as your tongue. Use it.

Don’t underestimate the effect of breath on skin. If you’ve ever spooned someone in bed, you know how someone’s breath can feel on your neck. It can tickle or comfort, arouse or annoy, depending on your sensitivity.

Breath is vital to a good rim job. Making a small “o” with your lips and blowing on an asshole (as you would a birthday candle) can make your partner moan. This is usually a cooler breath. Alternately, as when you breathe on someone’s neck, an open-mouthed gush of warm breath will moisten the hole and add a tingling feeling of expectation — making them ready for your tongue plunge. Pause, draw it out, and dive.

5} Give his or her taint some love. If you’re rimming a man, don’t forget the space around the butt — including the taint (the space between his anus and testicles). It’s an extremely sensitive area and feels amazing licked.

6} Of course, everyone is different. So, try out a variety of different techniques – from soft kitten licks, to long lapping, with different pressures, speeds and pauses. Listen for cues to find out what they like the best. It’s the bottom’s duty to let you know what feels good. Mix up the pressure and area don’t focus in one spot to much

7} If you are performing it on a female, be sure to make it the last thing you do in your repertoire. You don't want to transfer any bacteria from the anus to the vagina.

8} Begin by gently kissing and fondling the area around the anus including the perineum (that area of skin between the genitals and the anus). Work your way in to the anus by circling your tongue around the outer area. You can suck and nibble the anus directly before going in to insert your tongue into the outer section of the anus.

9} Shave that butt hole. Even if you think you don't have any hair back there, trust me there's the one stray that got away. Having a smooth posterior heightens your sphincter's sensitivity to touch.

10} lay your lover down on their stomach and begin to massage their bum cheeks. After a while, start gently pulling the buttocks apart so the anus is exposed, and your fingers are gradually getting closer to it.”

11} Put your partner at ease and try to make sure they are completely relaxed and fully aroused. All anal play is easier if your partner is already hugely turned on, so get them halfway there before you try your hand (or mouth) at rimming. Women often find anal play easier and more comfortable once they've already had one orgasm.

12} First, find the right position. You will want to be comfortable, so you may want to try lying down on your back with your head hanging over the edge of the bed. This way, you will have full access to your partner’s anus.

13} When they are close to orgasm, don’t be afraid to experiment with additional stimulation. Experiment with different speeds, pressures, and techniques until you find what works best for them.

14} When they are close to orgasm, don’t be afraid to experiment with additional stimulation. Experiment with different speeds, pressures, and techniques until you find what works best for them.

15} Be Present and Adjust Accordingly Pay attention to your partner. Try not to get so wrapped up in the novelty of analingus that you neglect to follow his/her guidance. Allowing someone to rim you requires a willingness to be vulnerable. It’s an expression of trust and can be really hot, if the connection is there and if the two of you are equally into it.

16} Aftercare is a must. Getting your ass eaten makes you feel vulnerable and exposed, so if you're the one performing the rim job, make your partner feel pampered after all the ass-eating is done.

Ask them how they are feeling; ask them if they want to eat or drink something, cuddle, or do anything they need to feel at ease after the rim job.

17} Mix things up by playing the game of “fire and ice.” Make a cup of hot water and place a small bowl with an ice cube next to the bed before your next rimming adventure. Bend your lover over and begin rimming as usual, but stop, take a sip of the warm tea and swish it around your mouth, then dive back in to give your partner a delightfully warm rim job. Next, pause and suck on the ice cube for a minute, transferring the cold to your tongue and lips, and go back down to give them an amazing sensation of cool licks.

18} Experimenting with anal sensations isn’t the only game in town when you want to spice up a rimming session by masturbating a male partner while he’s being rimmed (yum!). But why stop there, when there is a whole world of sex toys to explore? Pause from rimming that naughty boy and snap a cock ring onto his package to give him a feeling of intense constriction when you spin him back around and dive back in.

19} clitoral massage during rimming could send your female lover into orbit. Slip a cordless finger-vibe such as any finger vibrator onto your finger and give her clit and entire vulva a delicious buzz as you lick.

While you can run the vibe over the outside of her anus as you rim her, don’t r move the vibe from anus to vulva — doing this might give her a vaginal infection. holding her hips, penetrating her vaginally with your fingers or a dildo, or even reaching up to play with her breasts. Everyone’s happy! In fact, dildos and vibrating dildos are wonderful props to use for penetration and play during rimming, and the vaginal and anal sensations can feel incredible for her.

Oral sex positions.

Depending on how long it takes them to orgasm, switching up positions can be a good way to stimulate different areas and create different sensations. Here are a handful to try:

1.The Kivin method

The Kivin method involves the receiving partner lying on their back, and the other giving head from the side, so they're perpendicular to their partner's body. This position offers a new angle, more vulva stimulation, and the potential to reach more sensitive spots.

2. Oral sex from behind

From a doggy-style-like position, give them head from behind. This position is also great if your partner is into rimming, as well. (A dental dam might be a good investment if you're new to this.)

3.Sitting on your face

A go-to position for many, this one offers a good angle for the giver, plus lots of access to the rest of the receiver's body--like grabbing breasts or their butt. To turn up the heat, throw out a "sit on my face" when you initially start hooking up, or whenever you want to change positions

4. Oral on your knees

Giving head on your knees might seem like something more traditionally associated with blowjobs, but it can be hot for anyone. Remember to spread the labia here for more clitoral exposure.

5. Sitting down oral

Have the receiving partner sit in a chair. Bonus points if it's somewhere out of the ordinary, like the kitchen table or a living room chair. With their legs draped over the sides of the chair, you've got easy access from below.

6. The pillow method

Put a pillow underneath their hips. Using a pillow to tilt their hips upward slightly can allow their legs to open just a bit more, and expose more of the anus.

Health Risks of Oral Sex

It is possible to contract STIs (sexually transmitted infections) through oral sex, fact that you didn’t learn about them in sex ed, oral STIs and anal STIs exist but the risk is much lower than vaginal and anal sex. Use barrier methods and take precautions to practice safe sex:

1. *Communicate with your partner*. Talk to your partner about each other’s sexual health history and STI status before engaging in oral sex.

2. *Know the potential risks*. STIs you can transmit through oral sex include Human papillomavirus (HPV), which causes genital warts; Hepatitis A, B, and C; oral herpes and genital herpes, gonorrhea, Chlamydia, Syphilis, and HIV. STIs can be asymptomatic, but possible symptoms include a sore throat and sores in or around the mouth or throat.

3. *Use protection*. For maximum STI prevention, use a Flavored condom during fellatio and Flavored dental dam during cunnilingus and analingus.

4. *Take precaution*. The risk of STI transmission is typically higher for those giving oral sex than those receiving it. To decrease the risk while giving oral sex, avoid brushing your teeth or using dental floss right beforehand, since bleeding gums will increase exposure to any viruses.


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