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Tips and Tricks for the best oral sex

Updated: May 14

What is Oral Sex?

Oral sex involves stimulating your partner's genitals with your mouth. You can perform oral stimulation using your tongue, lips, and/or throat. Oral sex can be a form of foreplay before sexual intercourse or as the main event of a sexual experience eat pineapple, papaya, nutmeg, cinnamon to make you taste great.

Many people find oral sex to be a sensual and intimate part of lovemaking, but not everyone is readily open to giving it or receiving it until there is some discussion to address their fears and put them at ease. It can feel uncomfortable or even awkward to start the conversation but talking about intimate matters with your partner will help build trust and intimacy even if they are initially opposed to the idea. The first step is asking, but know that there are more respectful, open ways to do it than others.

Trusting your partner is essential. This part of your body can feel especially intimate, so you must feel safe with your partner(s) even in casual situations. “You can’t have good oral sex without trust,” Even if it’s just a hookup thing, I need to know you’re a person who will respect what I want and don’t want. It’s about communication and being open about [desires] so that you can be in the moment.”

Discuss STI status. Inquire about your partner’s STI (sexually transmitted infection) status and consider using a dental dam for extra protection. There is a risk of contracting STIs such as HPV through cunnilingus, but the risk is much lower than vaginal and anal sex.

Know that every vulva is different. Be mindful that all vulvas (the external female genitalia including the clitoris, labia, and vaginal opening) are different. This means the smell, look, or taste of your partner's vulva may not be what you expect, and that's completely normal.

Letting go of inhibitions and focusing on what feels good to you can bring you amazing pleasure. the best oral sex of her life was with a man who made her feel like she could be completely present and laid bare—in the best way. “To be in someone’s mouth, to let them please you, and to be completely selfish in that moment is simultaneously empowering and vulnerable,”

There are three subcategories of oral sex:

Cunnilingus {stimulation of the female Vulva} is an oral sex act performed on the vulva or vagina. During cunnilingus, the giving partner typically focuses on stimulating their partner’s clitoris, the most sensitive erogenous zone for vulva owners.

Fellatio {oral stimulation of a man's penis} more commonly called a blow job, is an oral sex act that involves stimulating your partner’s penis with your mouth. Despite its name, a blow job doesn't involve blowing on the penis; rather, you perform a blow job by licking and sucking the penis.

Analingus {orally pleasuring the anus}. More commonly called a rim job or rimming, analingus is the act of orally stimulating a partner’s anus. Licking, kissing, and sucking can stimulate the sensitive nerve endings in and around the anus and rectum. With thoughtful safer sex practices and clear communication, rimming can be a pleasurable sexual activity for persons of all genders and sexual orientations.

Many young adults and teenagers who want to preserve their "technical virginity" don't consider oral sex to be the real thing. Maybe it's because oral isn't penetration in a traditional sense, or perhaps it's because the act can't lead to conception. However, doctors say that oral sex is still sex, especially because it carries many of the same risks as intercourse if it's not done responsibly. "A lot of women focus on, 'Well, I won't get pregnant,”. "But I say there's another very serious issue with unprotected sex, whether it be vaginal or oral, and that is the transmission of sexually transmitted diseases. As doctors, we tell people that, in that sense, oral sex still counts."

If you don’t enjoy it, don’t do it

This obviously goes for most things in life, but it’s especially important when it comes to oral sex. You can tell when someone’s not “in” it. If you look like you’re not having fun, you won’t have fun, and neither will your partner.

Ask what your partner likes

Everyone wants something different. Licking, sucking, kissing, all of the above, none of the above—everyone gets excited over different things. While your last partner might have loved when you do XYZ, your new partner might find that uncomfortable. Instead of guessing what they like, just ask. You can make it sexy by asking them if they like when you this or that.

You need to engage in foreplay before going down on her. If you treat cunnilingus as foreplay itself, your partner might not feel ready, which can be awkward. Also, it’ll take a lot longer to get her to where she wants to be.

On average, women take 20 minutes to reach orgasm. Include some foreplay, and your jaw will thank you! Take your time kissing, hugging, and touching your partner, making sure she is aroused.

Understand oral isn’t the same as penetrative sex

This is especially helpful if you’re giving oral sex to someone with a vulva. Using your tongue, the same way you would penetrate with fingers, or a penis doesn’t feel the same; it’s actually not particularly pleasurable for a lot of women. Oral is a different sensation than penetration, which is one of the reasons why it’s so fun! Don’t spend the entire time trying to go down on them as a substitute for sex. Oral isn’t a substitute; it’s a complement.

Luckily, there are plenty of ways to improve your oral sex techniques and communicating with your partner can make a big difference. From incorporating toys, to trying different positions, to using your tongue in unique ways. If fellatio and/or cunnilingus become a regular part of your routine, either can seem ho hum after a while—just as any other sex act can get when it becomes your go-to pleasure move. Luckily there are many variations to cunnilingus and fellatio. If you're in a rut, try it on all fours, up against the wall, or in the 69 positions, for example. Just like with intercourse, experimenting with new positions may crank up your chances of orgasm.

I am not saying they’re totally fail-proof oral sex tips, but they are sexy and fun,

with the potential to produce mind-blowing orgasms!

What you eat might change the way you taste

You may have heard that eating foods like pineapple can change the taste of your vagina, that eating foods with higher sugar content, like fruit, could possibly make bodily fluids taste a little sweeter. But that effect wouldn't be noticeable right away—especially not in men, since "prostate fluid in ejaculate can be made weeks or months before

Use more than your mouth Just because it’s called “oral sex” doesn’t mean you can only use your mouth to do all the work. Your hands are an incredible tool or introduce sex toys to make oral sex a multi-sensory experience. You can touch their genitals or touch their stomach, their arms, their breasts, their inner thighs, etc. Adding that extra element of touch helps build anticipation and arousal.

Heighten The Senses You experience the best when all your senses are involved. Pay specific attention to scents—scented candles, essential oils, aphrodisiac perfume or even flavored lube should be involved in the process of heightening your olfactory senses. It triggers the limbic section of the brain, the area responsible for arousal.

Quick lesson on anatomy on female anatomy

Before I give you a small lesson on the wonders of the female anatomy, please make sure your partner is okay with you touching their sensitive areas, consensually is key. There are several erogenous zones you can play with. If you can master the art of cunnilingus while stimulating these zones, you’ll knock her socks right off her feet.

* The gluteal fold is the spot where the thigh meets the butt. It’s a suggestive zone often overlooked. Kissing, licking, pressing, or tickling this spot can drive him wild by surprise.

* The perineum is the spot between the anus and vagina. It’s full of perineal nerves, which send pleasure sensations from the perineum to the genitals. Gentle pressing, rubbing (with lube), and tickling are great ways to engage the perineum.

* The anus is a surprising erogenous zone The sphincter and the back wall of the vagina are connected to the same pleasure nerve. Gently rubbing or tickling the outside of the anus can bring pleasurable sensations. If she’s up for it, penetrating can bring a mind-blowing orgasm she’s never experienced.

* The sacrum is the triangular small of the back. It’s another overlooked erogenous zone. The sacral nerves are connected to the genitals and carry pleasure sensations from the sacrum to the vagina. You may have to press a little harder than you would other body parts to stimulate these nerves.

The Art of Cunnilingus

Follow her Movements Becoming a cunnilingus master isn’t about developing your “secret” method. It’s about learning hers. Every woman is different, and if you pay attention to her body, you’ll soon learn the best way to take her to the moon and back.

So, when you’re going down on her, please pay attention to her movements.

What is she doing with her hips, legs, arms, and back? What does this tell you about what she wants? For example, if she pushes her hips up (or pushes your head down), she may want you to apply a bit more pressure or go harder.

If she retracts her hips, you might be stimulating the clit too much, or she might be directing your tongue downward.

If she arches her back, she loves it. This doesn’t mean to go harder or faster; it means to keep doing exactly what you're doing.

This is also true if she puts her arms up near her face or head.

If you pay attention to how your partner moves during cunnilingus, you’ll soon learn to decipher these sensual signals and give her exactly what she wants.

Tips for Cunnilingus

1}Don’t go straight for the clit! Instead, opt for widespread, gentle pressure at first, the flat of your tongue first, and move your head instead of your tongue. This creates a larger surface space, which feels better initially to most people. Tease her around her vagina and her inner thighs with light licks and gentle tickles. Then, softly graze her clitoris with the tip of your tongue and pull back, if you skip this step, you risk overstimulating her to the point where she won’t be able to orgasm — and could possibly even find the experience painful.

2} Tell her to pull your hair when it feels good Many folks don’t enjoy vocalizing their desires or feel uncomfortable saying when something feels good in the bedroom. If you’re not used to being sexual with language or if it seems out of character for you, pillow talk can feel like a strange departure. But communication is at the heart of working out what your partner wants.

3} Make a point of telling her how great she tastes Many women feel self-doubt and insecurity when it comes to their vagina’s smell and scent. But let’s be real: If you didn’t enjoy both, you wouldn’t be down there. Making your partner feel at ease about both sensations can help her relax into the sexual experience.

4} Don't be Afraid of Toys Using toys during cunnilingus is a bonus for her Tongues get tired, as do backs and necks, and sometimes you really want your partner to get off but you're lagging for some reason. Bringing a sex toy or two into the bedroom can be fun and also extremely helpful in making her get off. Many men are intimidated or bothered by the idea of using a toy on their partner, as if they're not good enough or something, but the reality is that sex toys are better when shared.

5} Use your hands (and not in the way you think) Apply gentle pressure to your partner’s pubic bone. This can feel freaking amazing. You can also incorporate a finger or two and stimulate her G-spot or “clitoral cluster,” which tends to be located at the top of the vagina near the back wall. But have patience before inserting your fingers into the vagina itself. It’s best to stimulate the clit and vulva until she’s really, really ready. Using your fingers isn’t only a mechanism for stimulating your partner and giving pleasure, it’s also a solid way to know if and when she’s going to orgasm, when she’s beginning her climb, the walls of her vagina will become engorged, and you’ll feel her vagina begin to contract and tighten.”

6} The V-spot is a gathering of nerve endings past the labia minora at the entrance of