How to balance feminine and masculine energies
Everything in nature has a male and a female expression, such as in trees, fruits, animals, and also humans. In the human it is the feminine or negative side that is passive, but magnetic. It attracts to itself, it absorbs and stores potential energy. The male or positive side is electric or charged. When there is a union between the electric male and the magnetic female, the couple provides a conduit for cosmic force, which flows through them into the earth plane with tremendous power. This power radiated by them, polarises the surrounding atmosphere.
However, understanding these energies makes connecting to your inner wisdom easier. When your energies are in harmony you'll feel a greater sense of peace and compassion. You'll feel more energized and connect better with others. Of course, you’re not necessarily always the same way. Different situations bring out different aspects of your individuality. Therefore, throughout life, you experience the yin-yang nature of energies. It’s also important to understand that if you identify as a masculine woman or feminine man, it’s not a sign of weakness.Nor something to be ashamed of. It is in fact, very natural and has much deeper roots!
It is also said that the masculine and feminine energies reside in two of our 72,000 energy channels. These two channels are called Ida and Pingala.
When there is a union between the electric male and the magnetic female, the couple provides a conduit for cosmic force, which flows through them into the earth plane with tremendous power.
This power radiated by them, polarises the surrounding atmosphere. The female at this time is surrounded by a corona of greenish-blue light. There is actually a powerful cosmic force surrounding us at all times that seeks expression through polarisation or sexual union. Therefore, because sex invokes a cosmic force it takes on a sacred meaning, as well
as providing a vehicle for the incoming soul.
Sex cannot be treated as an exercise in eroticism with an orgasmic overtone. Sex, solely due to the abuse of it, has brought to humans disease, suffering and death. Basically, there is nothing wrong with sex. It is the human misinterpretation and misuse of sex that is wrong.
Giving is an action of our divine masculine, and receiving is an action of our divine feminine, and a balance of both energies is when we feel harmonious within. It’s simple, yet oddly challenging to achieve.
Rediscover & embrace your femininity
What is femininity anyways? What does it mean to be a woman, especially in today’s times? women feel overwhelmed, confused, and unsure of how to balance their lives and how to navigate the terrain of femininity.
Ask yourself these questions
What is femininity for you?
When do you feel most feminine?
What do you do on a daily basis to connect to your femininity?
Ways to Cultivate Your Feminine Energy
Feminine energy nurtures qualities: intuition, creativity, compassion, understanding. There’s a receptive and open feeling in this type of energy. It’s fast and energized. When feminine energy is too dominant you feel unsupported, unfocused, scattered and unstable. Without purpose or direction and therefore feel no sense of success.
MEDITATE DAILY
Add a 10-20 minute meditation to your daily routine. Let your intellect take a rest while you make space to connect with your body, your natural presence, and your intuition.
REFLECT AND RECONNECT
Many of us are so busy that we rarely take time to listen to what is going on inside of us. We lose touch with our deeper selves. It is important to internally connect to who you are. You can talk to yourself and write down your thoughts and feelings or go to a therapist, seek a professional help to explore your thoughts and feelings. By connecting back to yourself, you are diving into your deeper, internal, feminine side. If we're always acting in an extroverted way, it creates a schism within. We lose touch with our deeper selves. All you have to do is internally connect to who you are. An excellent way to do this is to start therapy. When you work with a therapist to explore your thoughts and feelings, you're essentially diving into your deeper, internal, feminine side.
BE OPEN TO RECEIVING
As women, we have the power to receive, amplify and give back. Give a woman love and she will return it tenfold. Give a woman hate and we all know what happens. Allow yourself to receive more. Do not be afraid to ask for favor and support when you need them, get yourself gifts, pamper yourself and make receiving a vital part of your experience.
MOVE YOUR BODY AND TAKE CARE OF IT
Movement creates fluidity between your mind and body and shakes things up! Try dancing, stretching, or even going for a lighthearted stroll. Your body is a temple, it is the only way to bring new life into this world and should therefore be treated as such. Take care of your body. Indulge yourself in self-care. Do things that feel good physically. Such pleasures related to feminine energy are dancing, massages and yoga. The feminine flows and when you move your body, you access this energy. It will also allow you to access your emotions and express yourself fully.
HONE YOUR EMOTIONAL EXPRESSION
While the masculine is defined by logic, the feminine is expressed through emotions. We all have emotional selves, but many of us haven't been taught how to understand our feelings. If you're confused about your emotional process, don't worry; you can learn to be more attuned to yourself. You do this by listening to how you feel and boosting your emotional intelligence. As you get to know your feeling states, you'll automatically begin to feel more whole.
CHILL OUT
Take a bubble bath. Light some candles and slowly sip your favorite tea. Starfish on the floor and listen to soft music. Take time for you and only you. Let go of doing and simply BE.
CREATE
Feminine energy is not about achieving and achieving; it’s about co-creating, which involves more flow, more fun, more music, more gentleness, more creativity and more collaboration to reach the same great results. Express yo'self! Let go of control and forget about the end product. Grab some paints, a lump of clay, anything, and immerse yourself in the joy of making solely to express your creative energy.
HAVE FEMALE ONLY TIME
This is a great way to restore your feminine energy. It is a mistake when a woman leaves her girl friends completely for a man. You can flow together with other females to align your thoughts, actions and feelings, which is empowering. It also gives you insight on how being feminine looks and feels like and you can pass on your unique wisdom to each other.
SPEND TIME IN NATURE
Nature moves at a much slower and steadier pace than our rushed and frantic modern lives.
Places can be characterized as either masculine or feminine, depending on their overarching characteristics. The feminine is life force energy. Places like the forest, jungle, park and the ocean are abundant with natural feminine energy. Go there when you are feeling out of synchronization and in need of revitalization. It is the perfect example of a doing/being balance, and when we spend time in nature, our minds and bodies can re-attune to the natural rhythms of life. Find a park or go on a hike and relax with all of the sounds, smells and sights. See if you can appreciate all of the beauty and nourishment that nature offers.
SHARE
Sharing is where vulnerability begins. When you open up and get real, from the heart, you open doors to connect more deeply with yourself and everyone around you.
FLOW
Set aside a whole day where there's nothing on your agenda and let yourself wake up and FLOW through it. Don't plan anything, just let your body and intuition guide you to what's next, listening to what feels good.
BE PRESENT
The masculine side of you is drawn to the future; planning and using logic to get there. Be present to the emotions and sensations you are feeling right now. This is where the juice of life comes from. Meditate, eat mindfully or do something that brings you joy, like salsa dancing.
VALUE SPONTANEITY AND PLAY
Let's be honest: We don't value vacation, connection, downtime, or rest as much as we should! We're overworked (over-masculinized), and therefore don't often experience the spontaneous joys of life. Too many of us wait until our next vacation to feel relaxed and playful again. Don't wait that long! You can have mini-vacations every day. Prioritize downtime and time for relaxation. Read books, listen to music, do yoga, and simply enjoy the moment. When you get out of your overworked state, you'll feel more like yourself again.
FORCE YOURSELF TO TRANSFORM.
Some of us think of the feminine as being quiet and rejuvenating, but that's only half the story. Feminine energy is bold as well—it's the force of transformation. If things in your life are no longer working for you, it is feminine energy that surges to make a change. This can be dramatic! Destruction comes before creation; we must say goodbye to the old to welcome the new. While this process of transformation can feel unruly and scary at times, it is necessary. After all, we're changing all the time. Without the powerful movement of feminine energy, both soothing and unnerving, we would remain stagnant. And nobody wants that. It's easy to lose touch with your feminine side, but as you can see, it's a necessary aspect of who you are. If you feel burned out, overworked, fragmented, or exhausted, you're in desperate need of feminine energy to restore, inspire, and enliven you. Implement these practices, and the feminine will bring you back to life. If you're wanting to get spiritual with it, consider exploring your connection to the Divine Feminine.
TAKE FULL RESPONSIBILITY FOR YOUR LIFE AND YOUR DREAMS
People who take complete responsibility for their lives experience joy and control of circumstances. They are able to make choices because they understand that they are responsible for their choices.
Indeed, even when events that are not under your control go awry, you can at the very least determine how you will react to the event. You can make an event a disaster or you can use it as an opportunity to learn and to grow.
The most important aspect of taking responsibility for your life is to acknowledge that your life is your responsibility. No one can live your life for you. You are in charge. No matter how hard you try to blame others for the events of your life, each event is the result of choices you made and are making.
STUDY FEMININITY AMD WOMANHOOD
Conversations about being feminine are common in everyday life and many people use the word ‘feminine’ to describe themselves and others. They may equate femininity with being a woman who embodies characteristics like being nurturing, sensitive, demure, or sweet. But femininity cannot be understood as a fixed set of essential traits that characterize all women. As a scholarly concept, femininity can carry diverse meanings with numerous interpretations.
GET OUT OF YOUR HEAD AND DROP INTO YOUR HEART AND WOMB MORE OFTEN
We tend to prioritize intellect and rationality over feeling and emotion in our society. We get consumed by the thinking mind and even identify with our thoughts. Accessing the space of your heart is not about living from emotion. It’s a sense of an inner knowing and calmness that can only be known from the heart. It can’t be understood through the intellect, as it’s a felt sense of compassionate expansion.
When you live from your heart, it becomes easier to connect with your inner truth. You arrive at compassion-centered decisions with ease and openness. You are able to tune into your body to know when it needs rest or exercise. And you tap into a deeper awareness that reflects qualities of calmness and presence.
SCHEDULE A BOUDOIR PHOTO SHOOT
A boudoir shoot is a great way to celebrate yourself, to create some amazing photographs that reflect just how vivacious and incredible you really are.I think one of the most important reasons to organize a boudoir session is simply that you are enough...as you are right now, without changing anything, It will empower you to feel more confident in your own skin.
WORK ON YOUR WORTH AND YOUR VALUE
Having a sense of self-worth means that you value yourself, and having a sense of self-value means that you are worthy. The differences between the two are minimal enough that both terms can be used to describe the same general concept. Get to know yourself on a deeper level with these questions:
a. Who I am? I am . . . I am not . . .
b. How am I?
c. How am I in the world?
d. How do others see me?
e. How do others speak about me?
f. What key life moments define who I am today?
g. What brings me the most passion, fulfillment, and joy?
In my view, knowing your value and self-worth are inextricably linked. Self-worth is defined as “the sense of one’s own value or worth as a person.” I think that is one part of it, but the other aspect is being able to understand how much of a difference you have made in any given situation with the contribution you have made.
MAKE IT YOUR MISSION TO BECOME HAPPY AND FULFILLED
Accountability is the path to true accomplishment. Personal accountability is infectious and others in your life will follow suit. Always consider the consequences of your words and actions. Not doing so can be a fast track to regret. Being accountable requires discipline. Discipline is the only way to discover your best personal self: the cross-section between purpose, talent, and effort. Discipline leads to accomplishing goals and avoiding bad decisions. Hate will consume you, exhaust you and distract you from the positive aspects of your life. Put your ego aside and replace it with humility. By smelling, tasting, feeling, seeing, and hearing everything in our surroundings, we’re able to stay in the present, resulting in insight, a crucial stepping stone on the path to happiness. Life is incredibly beautiful when you slow down enough to enjoy it. Live in the moment, live for right now. This very moment is life.
SMILE AND LAUGH MORE
When you smile, your brain releases tiny molecules called neuropeptides to help fight off stress. Then other neurotransmitters like dopamine, serotonin, and endorphins come into play too. The endorphins act as a mild pain reliever, whereas serotonin is an antidepressant. A good laugh can help you release emotions, especially those emotions that you might bottle up inside. Everything looks that little bit better after a good laugh and life can be seen from a more positive perspective. Smiling and laughing have positive social implications as well.
GET RID OD NEGATIVE PEOPLE
think about the negative side effects of holding onto these people in your life, and their impact on your goals and overall happiness. Watch out for people who negatively affect your other relationships, invade your space, and take up a lot of your time. If a person makes you feel uncomfortable or unproductive, that's a red flag. There is a difference between someone sharing with you their struggles/challenges versus someone who constantly complains about their own. Boundaries are key in maintaining your sanity, wellness and happiness. If people don’t respect your boundaries contrary to your normal hardwiring, you're not abandoning these people but in fact allowing them to find their own path and place in life while you honor yours. Look for people who will support your ambitions, support you to be a better person, encourage your ideas because they know how important it is for "you" and ultimately share like-minded beliefs. The better and brighter company you keep - the better and brighter you will become.
STUDY, OBSERVE AND WORK WITH YOU MENSTURAL CYCLE AND ITS CONNECTION TO THE MOON
The moon cycle is a gift to women. It is a time to cleanse herself mentally, physically, emotionally, and spiritually. The moontime is considered a time of power, second only to the ability of the Great Spirit to give life. That is how strong that power is. The Moon rules the tides and waters of the planet as well as our bodies and our emotions. Each phase of the moon has its own energetic significance, and when we align our intentions with the power of the moon, magical things can happen. As women, the time leading up to, during, and just after our moon time is our most sexually activated time. It is our time when we can be the most sexually aroused, and if we make love during the time we can access our most wild primal feminine time of our cycle. When we are bleeding we are more cosmically and multi-dimensionally aware. When we make love while we are bleeding we can experience a merging between our sensual, sexual, erotic natures and our mystical natures. In the ancient Gnostic traditions, and the Celtic Grail mysteries a woman’s moon blood was known to carry the codes of creation and was considered a sacred elixir, that was drunk from the chalice, representing the life giving power of the Divine Mother and would bring its life giving powers to the one taking the sacrament.
MASCULINE ENERGY
Masculine energy nurtures qualities: leadership, action, logic, adventure, loyalty, confidence, focus, and efficiency. When masculine energy is too dominant you may not feel valued, nurtured, or appreciated. You’ll feel tired, stressed, overworked and unloved. masculine energy is as knowledge whereas the feminine is knowing. The knowledge is static with precise dimensions and exact design. While knowing is forever changing. It’s not a level of knowledge to be achieved because once you get there, it opens new possibilities and thus inspires you to grow further.
How to awaken the divine masculine within.
Examine your wounds surrounding the Masculine
Examining your wounds will help you to examine any unconscious beliefs, biases, or prejudice you have towards men. These mental and emotional blockages are very revealing and will help you to develop and strengthen a healthy bond with your inner divine masculine. Write down your experiences and reflect on the themes that arise such as abandonment, friendship, alienation, love/hate, emotional connection/distance etc.
Use affirmations.
Affirmations are powerful tools for shifting your mindset and activating certain parts of yourself. In the case of the divine masculine,
I am a warrior.
I am a master of self-discipline.
I see things clearly and objectively.
I am confident.
I know when to take action.
MEDITATE DAILY
Add a 10-20 minute meditation to your daily routine. Let your intellect take a rest while you make space to connect with your body, your natural presence, and your intuition.
WORK WITH MASCULINE TEACHERS, ARCHETYPES, AND DEITIES
Find a man that embodies the qualities that you admire and get close to him. They may be in your close inner circle already or in your family. If they’re not, however, the internet has made it much easier to find these men.For me, I think of Dwayne Johnson, Elliot Hulse, Mooji.The aim is to learn from them and eventually express your own form of the powerful masculine.
TAKE SELF-RESPONSIBILITY
Make your own decisions and have faith in yourself that they are right. Seek advice if you need it, but always make the final decision. You must own your life, your actions, your happiness, your mind. Don’t allow victimhood to come into your consciousness as that makes you feel powerless. This level of accountability is the only way you become the man you want to be.
Own your sensuality.
Do you even know how you like to be touched? What smells do you love? What is your favorite food? What do you love to look at? What music entices your ears? Bathe yourself in all the things that excite your senses. Give yourself the gift of sensuality. Be slow and feel. You will no longer see women as trophies to attain or “boxes to tick”, as these views stem from toxic masculinity.
You will consider sex to be a sacred union and you will feel and understand the energetic implications of sleeping with someone.
As your Divine Masculine awakens, it will balance your feminine energies until they reach the right level, and your intuition will awaken. Thus, you will become more energetically sensitive and will feel energetic changes in your body after having meaningless sex.
Protect and Respect Women
If you feel like you have issues with women in general, that may be a sign that you should consider talking to a professional. Women are delicate creatures and they need to be treated with respect.
No matter how many times you’ve been hurt, you need to be open to the possibility of love. Protect your woman and help her feel safe, and she will make you feel like the king of the world.
DECONSTRUCT YOUR CONDITIONING
What have you been conditioned to believe about “what it means to be a man”? We collectively and individually carry so much baggage when it comes to defining masculinity. Common forms of conditioning that many of us have received regarding men include, for example:
Men shouldn’t cry (because it makes you a “wimp/sissy”), Men must be stoic and not express their emotions, Men must have a successful career, Men must be the head of the household
Men are primarily logical and left-brain oriented, Men have to be interested in sport
Men are the protectors of women and children, Men must “dominate” women physically, sexually, and career-wise, Men are expected to be aggressively self-confident, Men must look strong and have muscles
CONNECT WITH YOUR INNER WARRIOR
This is one of the easiest ways to have masculine energy flowing through you and at the same time have you feeling more comfortable in your environment. It will also raise your testosterone, release stress, give you an endorphin rush and make you better in bed ;). More vitamin D is needed. More zinc is needed. More physical training with heavy dumbbells as well as walking, cycling or swimming. You do all this if you want to build up more testosterone. And therefore more motivation, better looks and good health.
CREATE A SOLID IDENTITY
As I mentioned earlier, a masculine man is expressive, self-assured, confident, etc. How can you emulate all of these characteristics which emit masculine energy if you aren’t grounded in your identity? If you don’t have a strong sense of self and a solid identity how are you going to be confident and grounded? How are you going to be a unmovable rock in windy times? If you don’t have a rock solid identity and know exactly who you are and what your values are, you will be a fickle, emotionally unstable, and ultimately ungrounded and feminine.
BE VULNERABLE
The divine masculine shares himself with his divine feminine. No topic is off limits and he is able to speak his true mind to her. While he doesn’t always fully understand her thought process, he stays open to her way of being and appreciates her insight and unique way of looking at the world.
As the divine masculine moves toward his feminine, he will share more and more of himself with her. He will readily speak to her about his challenges, problems, and fears.
This does not mean he will tell her everything, and certainly not on her schedule. The divine masculine is meant to lead these conversations. He is not easily manipulated and does not return vulnerability with more vulnerability just for the sake of it. He instead offers vulnerability when it is right for the connection.
HAVE GUYS ONLY TIME
Something magical happens when you are exclusively in the company of other men. You soak up each others energies and inspire each other’s masculine energy it gives men a socially acceptable construct through which they are allowed to be around other men and not have it seem strange.
If you feel like your masculine batteries need recharging, hanging out in the company of other men with no females in sight will do wonders for you.
SLOW DOWN
Masculine energy is the stillness and sameness in all things. It is consistency.
To tap into your masculine energy, sit down with your eyes closed in a comfortable place and breathe deeply into your belly. If you have the urge to move at all (to scratch your nose, for example) do it as slowly as possible. Let it take ten seconds for your hand to travel from your lap to your face. Move as if moving through thick honey. Do this exercise for 2-5 minutes and see how you feel afterwards.
ANALYSE AND UNDERSTAND HOW YOU MAY BE DEPENDING ON WOMEN FOR VALIDATION
Do you depend on women for validation? Before you say no, realize that we all do to some extent. We all rely on other people for validation. But we tend to do it more with women, primarily because they’re the gatekeepers of sex and we’re all inherently motivated to get laid. This dependency can surface as acting needy in your relationship, feeling depressed and lonely because you’re single, or mercilessly texting a girl you have a crush on just so she’ll text you back, to name a few.
STAY GROUNDED
Finally, and most importantly, to learn how to be a masculine man you must learn how to stay grounded in the amidst of chaos.
They feel fear, overwhelm, and stress as much as any man. But they aren’t controlled by these feelings.
Instead, they live their lives based on a core set of values and beliefs. They know what they stand for, what they value, and they want out of life…and they do whatever is necessary to live in integrity with it.
DEVELOP PRINCIPLES
A man needs principles. These are the virtues he sticks to no matter what. Having principles is the defining characteristic of a man. While your principles may be different from another man, it’s absolutely vital that you have them. Without principles, there will be no way to develop masculine energy within you.
In turn, your masculine energy will fade and the feminine will take over. This is what has happened to most men in today’s time. Most males won’t take a stance on anything. They have no overarching principles. There’s no code to live by. What develops masculine energy within a man is commitment to his principles.
EMOTIONAL INTELLIGENCE
Building strong emotional intelligence is a lost skill that every man needs to develop masculine energy. This will allow you to use your masculine power when needed, know when to hold it back, and deal with situations like tests – be it from women, from enemies, or even from friends.
RECONNECT WITH NATURE
As men, we have an innate call to adventure, a deeper drive to break free from restraints and challenge ourselves to find out what we’re really made of.
You come from the wild, and you shouldn’t be afraid of the planet you live on.
But wildness isn’t just about primal screaming, rolling in the mud, or going off the grid and living in a commune away from everything you've known.
It's about reconnecting with the source of where you come from. It’s about feeling at home in the forest, the mountains, the trails. It’s about using nature as a way to reconnect with yourself, to find out what you’re really capable of, of who you really are beneath all of the conditioning.
Start with exposing yourself more to the elements each day. Put your bare feet on the ground. Stop being scared to touch things around you. Go off the path. Feel the wind on your face and the sky above you. This is your home. Your original home.
Return to the source by making a commitment to getting out into the wild as much as you can.
REFRAIN FROM EJACULATION
If you refrain from ejaculation as often as you likely do now then your sexual masculine energy will start to build up within your body.
The results of this can be astounding to the uninitiated. Seriously. Don’t ejaculate for a week and go to the gym (or physically be around your partner/a woman that you are attracted to) and you can feel the deep masculine energy coursing through your veins. It’s one of the most powerful sources of energy available to you. This will allow the sexual masculine energy inside you to build up and transmute into more fulfilling areas of your life.The issues with this are you hooking up your brain to seeking instant gratification and depleting the life force inside you.
The results can be profound from more drive, testosterone, assertiveness, needing less sleep and becoming more creative..
