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Tantric Sex Tips That Can Help With Premature Ejaculation

Updated: Sep 19, 2019


By the way, everything written here is completely applicable to same gender sex.


Premature ejaculation can cause significant personal and interpersonal distress to a man and his partner. While it has been recognized as a syndrome for well over 100 years, the clinical definition of premature ejaculation has been vague, ambiguous, and lacking in objective.

Teaching men to last longer and to have control over their ejaculation through a basic understanding of their own bodies and energies.


I hope that my words & writing will inspire you and open your eyes and minds to the vast potential stored within your sexual energy.


With the knowledge that will be presented here there are no boundaries to how far you can go and how high you can soar. Unlocking the mysteries of our sexuality is like finding the key to the universal cosmic bang. Within the sexual energy lies a huge potential, which if harnessed correctly can strengthen our body and psyche while giving a wide range of benefits ranging from more confidence, charisma, more will power, more empathy, better intuition, more intelligence, and the list goes on and on…..


So what is Premature Ejaculation?

Review of literature 2018 from US, Canada and Europe suggests that premature ejaculation (PE) is under diagnosed. Men are reluctant to discuss it with their physicians, often, men with PE have trouble lasting long enough to help their partners have an orgasm. This can lead to dissatisfaction with sex, stress in the relationship, and feelings of shame or anxiety, anger at ones self.

Premature ejaculation is a form of sexual dysfunction that can adversely affect the quality of a man's sex life. Ejaculation is the release of semen from the body. Premature ejaculation is uncontrolled ejaculation either before or shortly after sexual penetration. It happens with minimal sexual stimulation and before the person wishes. Occasional PE is also known as rapid ejaculation, premature climax or early ejaculation. PE might not be a cause for worry. It can be frustrating if it makes sex less enjoyable and impacts relationships. However if it happens often and causes problems, your health care provider can help.


Dealing with premature ejaculation? You are not alone. Approximately 20 to 30 percent of men experience premature ejaculation, according to a study published in July 2016 in Drug Discovery Today. This often-embarrassing sexual issue can affect men of any age. In the U.S., about 1 in 3 men 18 to 59 years old have problems with PE. Europe PE was diagnosed in 201 of 1115 men. Findings were similar to those in a similarly conducted US study.

The problem is often thought to be psychological, but biology may also play a role.

In most cases, there is a psychological cause, and the prognosis is good. Medical causes more rarely, However there may be a biological cause.


The following are possible medical causes of PE:

Diabetes, Multiple sclerosis, Prostate disease, Thyroid problems, Illicit drug use

Excessive alcohol consumption, Sedentary life style.

PE can be a sign that an underlying condition needs treatment.


Three quarters of men ejaculate before 2 minutes have passed of full penetration in over 50% of their sexual encounters. Other surveys show that 75% of men ejaculate within 10 minutes of penetration. Most men have experience premature ejaculation at least one time in their lives.

Between 30% and 70% of men in Canada have PE - It affects 25-40% of men in the United Sates. It's one of the most common sexual problems in men.


As I am a Tantric practitioner who knows through personal experience that men can

last as long as they want, I define premature ejaculation as ejaculating before you would like.


Many reasons are offered why men ejaculate quickly. A very popular explanation is that it is hardwired into the masculine body. Ancient man had to ejaculate quickly to ensure that the Continuity of our Species and generate as many offspring as he could, with as many women as he could, so that no matter the situation the man delivers his semen to the woman.

Men grow up believing that the ultimate goal of sexuality is the release of pent up sexual energy in a wild orgasm with ejaculation. All porn scenes end with the guy ejaculating all over the woman’s breasts, face or backside. All movies depicting lovemaking scenes show the couple in a sexual frenzy ending with a wild orgasm that they get at the same time.

The message is clear: getting the orgasm at the same time is seen as the pinnacle of

a successful sexual encounter showing how we focus more on the goal than the process.


In this quest to attain the goal and to release our tension and energy as quickly as possible we forget about the energy flow, and sensuality. We forget about the more gentle, caressing and loving aspects of sexuality and we forget that sexual energy actually is the most powerful energy we have in our body and that it can be harnessed and channeled into a wide range of beneficial healing and strengthening processes in the body and psyche.


How do you become aware of being turned on, or angry, or nervous, or in love? Your internal energy causes sensations in your body.

It's what acupuncturists and massage therapists work with every day.


The Nature of men.

The very structure of the masculine had lead men to being out of touch with their emotions, bodies and sexuality. If a man is in his body & in the present moment, there is no goal, there is only the experience of now … in this state of presence a man can become aware of the waves of pleasure & arousal moving through his body & with the support of a tantric therapist, learn to ride them …thus creating for himself multiple & whole body orgasms & the ability to ride pleasure without ejaculation or loosing an erection.


Sensations in the body and emotions can often be disturbing factors for most men.

Men can have an incredibly tough time dealing with their own emotions not to mention the emotions of their partners. It is sad and perhaps disturbing that one of the reasons that so many men suffer from premature ejaculation is because we simply know next to nothing about sexuality and the role it plays in our lives.

The level of knowledge most people have about sexuality is next to none.

The sexual education provided in schools is very minimal to say the least

Sex education is the instruction of issues relating to human sexuality, including emotional relations and responsibilities, human sexual anatomy, sexual activity, sexual reproduction, age of consent, reproductive health, reproductive rights, safe sex, birth control and sexual abstinence.

It does not teach about sexual energy, touch, or how to talk to your partner in an open honest way.

The suppression and repression of our sexuality is one of the biggest problems humankind is currently suffering from. According to my research we’ve been dealing with this problem for many hundreds of years now. The root cause of most of the problems — even the seemingly unrelated ones — that we’re dealing with in societies around the world can be traced back to sexual suppression and repression.

We see the results of this ignorance nowadays, in all the kinds of strange pornography, sexual addictions, and the fact that many health experts actively are advising men to ejaculate daily in order to prevent prostate cancer. As a society, we are still in the beginning of understanding sexuality and how it ties into our lives.


I hope to present to you a healthy new path you can follow, which does not repress sexual energy, does not waste your sexual energy, but teach you to use sexuality in a harmonious loving and profound way helping you to last longer in bed and to create an enormous transformation in your life at all levels.

In the practices of higher sex, one learns not to try and control this force, but rather how to relax and fully enjoy it, by making more space for it. Not limiting it, but rather expanding one’s capacity to enjoy the pleasures of sensual and sexual excitement.

Tantra in stills a nurturing environment in which you can feel confident that you won’t be judged for becoming extremely excited to the degree of losing control. In fact, it encourages you to create a safe atmosphere that will support you in feeling comfortable enough to completely surrender to pleasure.


Tantra – a spiritual system entwined with Yoga that also embraces sexuality. Tantra is about expansion of the consciousness, and sexual Tantra accepts that we spontaneously have these high states of consciousness, manifesting as love, bliss & presence, when we orgasm. The more powerful the orgasm, the more powerful this expansion.

I tell clients... " That there's nothing 'wrong with them organically. They need to hear that their sexual habits are a natural product of the way they have been taught to experience their sexuality.

It is merely education and practicing new habits that can transform their sexual experience.

The exercises are cumulative, which means later ones build on earlier ones. This isn't to say you can't blow through some of the stuff that's easy for you very quickly. Go right ahead, just try everything and see if you've got the knack first.

I'm asking you now to commit to the long haul. Ideally, this is a life time program. If you practice an hour a day, you might get through it in 6months.

More likely, you'll practice several times a week and take 6 to 12 months. Can you arrange that to become an Orgasm Master?

I recommend against just an hour a week. It's not enough to develop the momentum where your mastery of one skill builds on the previous one.


Key steps to help you on your journey to lasting longer

Exercises

Like yoga have been shown to help those suffering from sexual dysfunction. In fact, those who practice Tantra recommend Kundalini yoga, because it's been shown to have tantric benefits, especially if you perform the poses with a partner. This particular type of yoga can relieve your stress and relax your body. In addition, because it is a yoga of awareness, it will improve your ability to sense and understand your sexual needs as well as your partner's sexual needs. Finally, Kundalini yoga helps to strengthen your pelvic floor muscles, which can be helpful when you're attempting to delay your orgasm.

Feeling good about yourself

The first thing you need to believe is that there is nothing wrong with you. Cumming is a good thing. OK, it does not always happen when you want it to.

Just consider it a timing problem which in the overwhelming majority of cases is easily corrected with training. However there is a very small chance that you have a medical condition causing your timing problem. It's not a bad idea to have a doctor check out your equipment if you suspect anything less than robust health.

As an adult we adapted our behavior into a social persona, creating defenses, that block our energy flow. Holding in emotions not only cause emotional suffering, but physical pain, glandular imbalances, tension and often disease……. There for Removing negative emotions about yourself and your sexuality can have a huge impact on your performance. These negative emotions can completely sabotage any steps you take bringing you back full circle. The moment you can forgive and accept yourself allowing yourself to release negative emotions such as sel